Unpacking consent in casual relationships — A couple of years ago, I wrote about the experience of having a one-night stand and the guy claiming afterward that he regretted it. …

It all comes down to consent. — I once had an exciting dynamic going with a submissive. He’d tell me how hard his dick was and demand that I release him from his suffering. He wanted me to pleasure him and he wanted it now. But that didn’t mean I always gave him what he desired. The…

Called sexsomnia, this is a rare but serious sleep disorder. — Imagine waking up in the morning only to learn you’d had sex with someone the night before. This is news to you because you have no recollection of the sex ever happening. …

The splenda daddy, the salt daddy, the saccharine daddy, and the stevia daddy. — We all like sugar. Sugar tastes amazing. Sugar feels amazing (at least when we’re high on it). No wonder the term sugar has become analogous to money. At least this is true in the world of sugar dating. “Sugaring” or giving a woman “sugar” is code for slipping her some…

You’ll initially receive a lot of attention but it won’t last. — I sugar-dated after my divorce. It was an experience that I both loved and hated. Part of me felt reenergized by dating older men who spoiled me after the traumatic end of my marriage. …

Men need to take ownership of their own dating laziness. — In her recent piece, Why A Horny Woman Will Turn Down The Guaranteed Sex Of A Dating App, Lisa Martens bemoans the dearth of romance in modern dating, even if a woman just wants sex. There’s a lack and a need on dating apps of men actually trying to seduce…

What is the “C-V distance” and does it determine whether women can orgasm during penetration? — Princess Marie Bonaparte — Napoleon’s great-grandniece — had a problem. She couldn’t orgasm during penis-in-vagina sex. As a psychoanalyst in her own right, she set out to figure out what was wrong. She began to gather data from her patients. She found that women with a clitoris located less than…

I honored my boundaries while respecting the needs of men to practice naturism. — My boyfriend and I visited Maui over the summer, spending every day of our vacation at the beach. I bought several new bikinis for the experience. You can see photos of me in them on Instagram. I enjoyed our beach days, but one afternoon, my boyfriend wanted to change things…

Instead of delaying your climax, let yourself be pushed over the edge again and again. — A lot of people find ecstasy in staving off their orgasm. It not only feels better for us but for our partners, too. As such, edging has become a popular sexual practice. Edging is all about controlling when you orgasm. Edging is when you sense your arousal is approaching the…