Published in Sensual: An Erotic Life·Dec 11, 2022Member-onlyMy Troubled Relationship With My Father Made Dating a Nightmare. Hookup Sex Healed Me.Casual sex as exposure therapy. — Marko and I met up on an early Friday afternoon. I drove to where he lived in Midtown L.A. It’s a part of the city populated by a lot of Hasidic Jews. We planned to meet for the first time in a kosher bakery/café. It was strange to be around…Sexuality7 min readSexuality7 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Dec 4, 2022Member-onlyI Tutored Kids for a Living While Also Sugar Dating for IncomeI kept these two jobs extremely separate as I plotted to escape my marriage. — “I’m so happy God sent you to us,” Pilar often told me when I tutored her daughter. When she said this, I always felt uncomfortable. I wasn’t religious but I respected that she was. However, God hadn’t sent me to her. She found me on a tutoring website just like…Relationships9 min readRelationships9 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Nov 30, 2022Member-onlyI Sugar Dated to Mitigate My Pain and Poverty as My Marriage Fell ApartI didn’t care if it meant I was a whore — The first time Jerry and I spoke on the phone, I was in the kitchen of the house I still shared with my husband. It was a Tuesday morning, 10 am. Sunlight came streaming in through the kitchen window. Jerry had a voice like a radio host. I told him…Sexuality17 min readSexuality17 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Sep 18, 2022Member-onlySexting With My Sugar Daddies Was a Hot Gift I Gave for FreeSexting for money is sex work. — “Lay on your belly on the bed,” Amir wrote. “Spread your legs. I’m standing behind you.” I closed my eyes and tried to imagine this 60-year-old man — my new potential sugar daddy — behind me with his hard cock out. I was alone in my apartment and he was…Sexuality5 min readSexuality5 min read
Published in P.S. I Hate You·Sep 16, 2022Member-onlyYeah, We F**ked, but Don’t Ask Me for a NudeUnpacking consent in casual relationships — A couple of years ago, I wrote about the experience of having a one-night stand and the guy claiming afterward that he regretted it. …Sexuality5 min readSexuality5 min read
Published in Sensual: An Erotic Life·Sep 14, 2022Member-onlyI Feel Both Aroused and Enraged When Men Beg for SexIt all comes down to consent. — I once had an exciting dynamic going with a submissive. He’d tell me how hard his dick was and demand that I release him from his suffering. He wanted me to pleasure him and he wanted it now. But that didn’t mean I always gave him what he desired. The…Sexuality7 min readSexuality7 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Sep 10, 2022Member-onlyYou Could Be Having Sex With People in Your Sleep and Not Even Know About ItCalled sexsomnia, this is a rare but serious sleep disorder. — Imagine waking up in the morning only to learn you’d had sex with someone the night before. This is news to you because you have no recollection of the sex ever happening. …Sexuality3 min readSexuality3 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Sep 10, 2022Member-onlyTypes of Sugar Daddies Every New Sugar Baby Should Know AboutThe splenda daddy, the salt daddy, the saccharine daddy, and the stevia daddy. — We all like sugar. Sugar tastes amazing. Sugar feels amazing (at least when we’re high on it). No wonder the term sugar has become analogous to money. At least this is true in the world of sugar dating. “Sugaring” or giving a woman “sugar” is code for slipping her some…Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published in Sugar Cubed·Sep 8, 2022Member-onlyWhat to Expect Your First Day as a Sugar Baby on a Sugar Dating WebsiteYou’ll initially receive a lot of attention but it won’t last. — I sugar-dated after my divorce. It was an experience that I both loved and hated. Part of me felt reenergized by dating older men who spoiled me after the traumatic end of my marriage. …Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Published in Sensual: An Erotic Life·Sep 6, 2022Member-onlyIt’s Not Women’s Fault That Hookup Culture Has Made Men Lazy AFMen need to take ownership of their own dating laziness. — In her recent piece, Why A Horny Woman Will Turn Down The Guaranteed Sex Of A Dating App, Lisa Martens bemoans the dearth of romance in modern dating, even if a woman just wants sex. There’s a lack and a need on dating apps of men actually trying to seduce…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
