Casual sex as exposure therapy. — Marko and I met up on an early Friday afternoon. I drove to where he lived in Midtown L.A. It’s a part of the city populated by a lot of Hasidic Jews. We planned to meet for the first time in a kosher bakery/café. It was strange to be around…

I kept these two jobs extremely separate as I plotted to escape my marriage. — “I’m so happy God sent you to us,” Pilar often told me when I tutored her daughter. When she said this, I always felt uncomfortable. I wasn’t religious but I respected that she was. However, God hadn’t sent me to her. She found me on a tutoring website just like…

I didn’t care if it meant I was a whore — The first time Jerry and I spoke on the phone, I was in the kitchen of the house I still shared with my husband. It was a Tuesday morning, 10 am. Sunlight came streaming in through the kitchen window. Jerry had a voice like a radio host. I told him…

Sexting for money is sex work. — “Lay on your belly on the bed,” Amir wrote. “Spread your legs. I’m standing behind you.” I closed my eyes and tried to imagine this 60-year-old man — my new potential sugar daddy — behind me with his hard cock out. I was alone in my apartment and he was…

Unpacking consent in casual relationships — A couple of years ago, I wrote about the experience of having a one-night stand and the guy claiming afterward that he regretted it. …

It all comes down to consent. — I once had an exciting dynamic going with a submissive. He’d tell me how hard his dick was and demand that I release him from his suffering. He wanted me to pleasure him and he wanted it now. But that didn’t mean I always gave him what he desired. The…

Called sexsomnia, this is a rare but serious sleep disorder. — Imagine waking up in the morning only to learn you’d had sex with someone the night before. This is news to you because you have no recollection of the sex ever happening. …

The splenda daddy, the salt daddy, the saccharine daddy, and the stevia daddy. — We all like sugar. Sugar tastes amazing. Sugar feels amazing (at least when we’re high on it). No wonder the term sugar has become analogous to money. At least this is true in the world of sugar dating. “Sugaring” or giving a woman “sugar” is code for slipping her some…

You’ll initially receive a lot of attention but it won’t last. — I sugar-dated after my divorce. It was an experience that I both loved and hated. Part of me felt reenergized by dating older men who spoiled me after the traumatic end of my marriage. Part of me despised the entitled male behavior, the expectation that I existed to make my…